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With Valentine’s Day right around the corner, we decided to investigate what life is like as the spouse of a police officer. And there’s no better person to ask than Mrs. Fuzz.

Her husband Hot Fuzz (both names are aliases, of course!) graduated from the police academy in May 2009. She shares the joys and hardships of being married to the law on her blog A Police Wife, which she started a year ago.

However, the mother of three has been blogging for much longer than that. Since 2006, she’s been sharing cooking stories and swapping recipies on her other blog Fuzz Food. Her tagline, “feeding and nurturing my family one meal at a time and trying to lay off the donuts,” says it all.

Why did you start blogging?

We had just had our second child, and we decided that I would stay at home while Hot Fuzz (or HF) worked. We both had just finished our degrees as well. In an attempt to stay sane being at home with little ones 24/7, I started blogging and had a lot of fun with it. When HF started the police academy, he wanted complete privacy, and I was looking for an outlet, support and information about police life. So, that’s how Mrs. Fuzz came about.

What’s the most difficult thing about being a police officer’s wife?

The most difficult thing about being a police wife for me (other than the obvious threat of death and danger in the back of my mind constantly) would be the negativity. Suddenly the entire world “hates” my husband because of what he does and suddenly all LEOs are lumped into one category. They are all corrupt, they are all bullies, etc. I had no idea the horrible things people say or think about police until HF became one. And also, the media is anti-police, too, so no help there.

Is there something that all police wives have in common?

I would say that one common thing would be “the single life of an LEO wife.” We know how it is to do things on our own whether it’s tending to our home and kids or going to events alone. Also, expecting the unexpected, like working on a day off, working overtime, staying later because of events that happened while on shift, etc. It has definitely made me more independent as a person and as a parent. There isn’t a whole lot that would surprise me.

Have you seen the blog Hott Cops? Is this a reason you became a police officer’s wife?

Ah. Hott Cops. I have seen this site. It’s not a reason why I became a police wife since I met HF many years before. I was never one to be drawn to a particular kind of guy just because of his profession, but getting to see him in a uniform now is definitely a bonus or a cherry on top as they say. I can see why girls swoon over a man in uniform. It definitely made my heart do a turn when I first saw him on graduation day in his class A’s. I think Hott Cops is fine and all, just keep HF off and we’ll be alright. .

We read that you used to be scared of cops … how did you transition into marrying one?

I met HF when we were teenagers, but I always knew that he would do something police related. I think knowing him for so long before he actually became one helped prepare me for what would come. So transitioning into marriage, I would say, was a lot harder than transitioning into being married to a police officer. It has its own set of challenges, but we both feel that this is a great match for our family, and that I’m doing well with the challenges.

I was completely scared of cops until HF was graduated and wearing the uniform and patrolling. I think understanding why they do what they do and how everything works definitely takes the fear out it.

Do you think you’ll ever trade in the apron for a badge … or any another profession?

As far as trading the apron in for a badge? NOT A CHANCE! I couldn’t do what they do or see what they see.

I do, however, see myself being an owner of a boutique or a little cafe or bakery or bed and breakfast. I also have a dream of being paid to organize and declutter people’s lives. Or there’s that one dream of writing children’s books or cookbooks. I have a lot of dreams.

In your opinion, aside from tactical pants, what’s the best gift you can give a police officer? Why?

Aside from tactical pants, I think the best gift a police wife could give her LEO would be support. I listen to HF, I ask him a lot of questions, I ask him what he needs, I ask him what I can do to help him in any way, I make him healthy meals to take to work with him, and I try and read related books that help me understand him and this life/profession he has chosen. I would expect the same for me. That’s why he has a lot of jobs around the house. The work doesn’t stop when he gets home. Having fun is also a big part. There isn’t a lot that is fun about his job and I want him to have a great time with the time he does get to spend with us. But if you were to ask him he would probably say wholeheartedly that he is having a blast on the job. He loves what he does.

Or. . . there’s always a flashlight. For some reason, they can never have enough flashlights. Or knives.